Dating almost seems like a full time job these days. First you have to get up the nerve to ask the girl out then if she says yes you have to come up with a great plan on something to do to wow her. Then the big day rolls around you have to get dressed in your best overcome your nerves and be on time.
Then all your anxiety really comes to life when it is time to pick her up and start making conversation. The type of girl you are going out with can make all the difference on whether the night continues to get stressful or is filled with bliss. So let’s talk about how to find the right girls and to ask them out.
Find something in common. – The girls you are most likely to have a good time with are girls who you have something in common with. Think about the activities you do or the places you go and start to scope out girls. Once you pick the one you want to ask out start a casual conversation with her about something you have in common. It is a great no stress way to break the ice and start a conversation. Once a friendly conversation is started it is much easier to ask for a date.
Be casual – Nobody likes a lot of stress or pressure. So if you are asking a new girl out suggest something casual. Things like a coffee, casual dinner or a movie are great first date options. Do not try to overdo it or put extra stress on you or her, this will only make the night seem complicated and that is really not what you want on a first date.
Be yourself – This seems like such a simple thing that anyone would understand. But let’s be honest….girls have the ability to make you nervous and make you want to seem more important than you really are. Resist the urge and be yourself. When you are yourself you are the most genuine which is when you are at your best. Even if you are not her dream guy at least she will know you are a genuine person and maybe you will make a new friend. If you are caught being dishonest you likely will not find yourself with a 2nd date anyway.
Be on time and attentive – No girl likes to think she is an afterthought so when you set a time for your date make sure you show up on time. You can be a few minutes early but not too early because you do not want to show up before she is ready (this stresses girls out) but whatever you do don’t be late. Being late shows you are just not that interested and who really wants to go on a date with someone that is not that interested?
Following these tips will make for a very easy going date night. The only thing standing in your way now is getting up the nerve to ask her. Take a deep breathe and go for it…you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. On a side note if she says no do not take it personally not everyone is a good match and if she knows that up front and tells you she is saving you a lot of wasted time and effort.